The one who works a nine-to-five or maybe owns her own business or is completing her master’s.

Or how about the one figuring out how to be a good mom or wife or daughter?

Or the one that’s doing all the above?

Hi, that’s a lot of us.

Black women are doing it all, and it’s not just the Oprahs and Beyoncés. There’s an entire group of us that are just, well, regular.

We’re handling things, like determining if we should speak up in that work meeting and risk becoming the “voice” for all Black women, or considering whether tonight is the night to introduce our silk hair bonnet in the relationship that is just getting serious.

These decisions range from impactful to trivial, but they shape who we are.